So, recently I came across the video for a new song of a particular female singer. And that made me realize something which I’m going to use to bore you in this post. The realization was: how easy it was for me to go down two wildly different paths based on the exact same input.
We all face the blues one day or another. Next time you do, go through this list: 100 Things To Do If You’re Sad You don’t have to do the items listed there; just imagine doing them. I think you’ll be glad that you did. And if you do find the list useful (like I did), I urge you […]
Came across the following video a couple of days back. Thought you might find it useful too…
The world we live in can feel like a rough and tough place sometimes. We are all just trying our best to deal with this life that is given to us. We have our fears, we have our hopes. At any given point of time, it’s difficult to say what is going on inside a person’s head, but you can be sure that a lot is going on.
At times, all one can do is keep hold of all this chaos. And that may well be the greatest thing that person does in her entire life.Read More »
Found this as I was going through the motions at work. Hope it helps you too… 🙂
Source: dilbert.com
A friend asks for your opinion on his new hairstyle, or blog, which you don’t like. But you tell him, it’s nice. He asks if you’d go watch a movie with him this weekend, but you’d rather just lie around the house. You tell him, you have relatives coming over.
Why do we tell these little white lies? Probably, the most popular answer would be to spare someone’s feelings. After all, a white lie isn’t doing any harm to anyone, and if it helps avoid hurting someone, then why not? You’ve probably done this, and probably, will again in the future.
I’m no saint; I have done this too. Not that I’m proud of it. But, I have been trying to avoid this as much as possible. And it’s not without reason.
First of all, let me come clean: I’m not a parent myself, so maybe I can’t see a parent’s point of view. But I have been a child [some say, myself included, that I am one, even now 😉 ] and have wanted to say the following to parents (to some parents anyway):
The best thing a parent can do for their children is to not try to control them. Advise them, share your experiences and knowledge with them. Be there for them when they fall, because they will. But give them the freedom to make their own mistakes; teach them how to learn from their mistakes and not repeat them. You might think you can protect your children, but you can’t, not really – you can just prepare them.
Let them dream, let them dare. Let them define what they can do, and what they can’t.
Don’t stand in the way of their destiny.
We have all given in to the temptation of revenge or hate at some point. Maybe, and I hope that is the case, not to the extent of committing a grave crime like a murder or something similar, but small “misdeeds” like swearing at somebody in traffic just because they cut you off earlier, or saying hurtful things to someone just because their words hurt you first.
Sometimes we intentionally do things that hurt others, either physically, financially, emotionally, or boost our ego at the expense of others’, but as soon as the deed is done, we feel bad ourselves because of what we did. We don’t like the person performing these actions (ourselves), yet we tend to repeat them over and over on other similar occasions. We’d normally not engage in these actions, but we allow ourselves to change, just for that moment, just to “get back” at the other person.
Had a great chat with a some guys today. Some were already my friends, some weren’t, and I had never thought about getting to know more about those who weren’t. But by the end of the conversation, I had reached a place where I wouldn’t mind getting to know them a bit more, maybe even call them a friend one day.
It’s a wonderful feeling – slowly getting to know a person more and more over a conversation. Of course, assuming you happen to like him or her as you are going along.
Also amazing is how people belonging to the same time and similar backgrounds have so much in common – you miss the same things in life, have similar experiences of the common events like remembering the same episode from an old TV serial – in general, just having the same interests and thoughts about so many things in life.
It doesn’t take much – just an hour – but you feel so much more than just what you’d feel normally in one hour. I could spend hours watching movies, TV serials, catching up on the latest news & technology, reading up for improving professional prospects, sleep-scrolling through Facebook, etc. But never feel so much “belonging” in just 1 hour.
What am I feeling right now? I don’t know. I’ve always felt a bit left out, a bit different from everyone else. I guess that’s why it’s moments like these, when I connect with those around me, that overwhelm me. Am I happy? I’m not sure I’d characterise my state of mind right now as being “happy” just because of the conversation. But, I did have a great time, and I would certainly love to repeat the past hour again.
There’s something about human contact that just has to be witnessed by being there personally – the location doesn’t matter, the time doesn’t matter, the weather doesn’t matter. All there is, is what you are talking about – sharing memories, your views, listening to others’, learning new things about those around you. The highs of nostalgia and discovery, combined.
Hopefully, I didn’t scare the guys away. Hopefully, somehow, no matter how unlikely, we’ll get together some day and have another great chat. Hopefully, providence will conspire to give us opportunities to develop our relationships further, and hopefully, they will develop into beautiful relationships.
Probably the best hour of my life this week, if not the month. It’s a memory, one that I hope I keep for a long time.
Echoes In The Ether 